Pod-Cast Episode 4 on Relationships
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| Pod-Cast Episode 4 on Relationships | Posted on Dec 21 2008 at 7:37pm by |
| I liked what you had to say in that podcast Jay. Coming from the church, your taught that magical love potion with God being the giver when your married. Like somehow your sexuality becomes pure, when I can't even see how one's sexuality got "impure" to begin with, and that life just magically folds together. My father is on his 5th wife, my mom has been married 2x, both failed, and all her relationships have been bad since. It was really hard for me over the years, to get this idea of what a good relationship with a female was. I was engaged, now I'm single. I remember during the relationship, I had all those ideas in me to how the church, or religion teaches you about marriage. I thought, since we had sex, and had a love that led us to promise a lifetime of committment, that everything would just magically come together. It surely didn't go that way, and it ended pretty bad. Hell Jay, I can't say what love is, or what a good relationship is. Not meaning to sound pathetically apatheitc but its just the truth. I liked what you said though in your podcast #4. I think many people regardless of religious beliefs, have an unrealistic look at marriage. Like the one thing that fixes everything. I know first hand, that it doesn't. Anyone that tries to tell me, I want to tell them to fuck off, because I watched the affects of 5 failed marrriages on my father, two failed marriages on my mother and the affects me and my sister had to deal with how our fathers were at a specific time, sadly for her, the way hers still is, and then to have to deal with the affects of a broken home. For me, a broken home created by drugs, and abuse, and a man and a woman not loving each other to the fullest degree, and for her, the problems that came about due to her family issues. I wish I would have known things I know now when I was engaged. I don't regret anything, and that relationship's blame for the end is equally 50/50 on both her and myself. Her having a troubled family as well, we both just didn't have the capacity I suppose at the time to make our relationship work. I just know now more than ever that my mindset for serious committed relationships is like what you said. Respecting the individuals, compromising for the good of one another and just two people existing together. Thanks for your quick thoughts on the matter. :) Joe | |
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