Can a woman be sexual and not be called a whore?
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Can a woman be sexual and not be called a whore? Posted on May 8 2008 at 10:20am by I have always struggled with this and I hoped that it will change, but I find that same mores remain today for women that were told to me during childhood. I am curious what other women and men think about this? 
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RE: Can a woman be sexual and not be called a whore? Posted on May 8 2008 at 12:38pm by The fact that this is a legitimate question is indicative of our society's immaturity; I find America's female sexuality complex dangerous, considering the early age at which people are inundated with conflicting messages about chastity and promiscuity. In no demographic are words like "whore," "slut," and "skank" more prevalent than early teenagers; in this same demographic, those words are juxtaposed with a word that is used just as frequently - "prude".
We equate images of chastity with a women's self-respect, yet we slobber over every jailbait 15-year-old who struts around a stage singing about things that 15-year-olds generally don't have the emotional wherewithal to understand. As people become adults, they may embrace and understand sexuality on a basic and personal level, but their general outlook on the phenomenon is largely informed by immature, confused, and underdeveloped messages that were indoctrinated subliminally upon them at an early age; the vicious cycle perpetuates itself from there.RE: Can a woman be sexual and not be called a whore? Posted on May 8 2008 at 2:24pm by Honestly, i think both men and women, girls and boys are equally sexual, but somehow we are afraid of young girls sexuality more than anything. My thinking is: it all comes down to the fact that girls (from puberty on) can get pregnant at the drop of a hat -- or to be more accurate, a few swimming sperm. Society is so afraid of that, probably rightfully so, that before the current rise in mass birth control, our birth control was morality itself. Here is where my head starts to spin. Because the "whore" curse was used to stop girls from have sex and getting pregnant before they had a man....
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RE: Can a woman be sexual and not be called a whore? Posted on May 14 2008 at 4:15pm by From my experience, I can tell you that it is possible for a woman to be sexual and not be called a whore, but it is in no way under the woman's control. I have seen some relatively chaste women get stuck with the whore stigma, and also plenty of promiscuous women whose sexuality flies under the radar. I think women are pretty much at the mercy of the whims of people around them. Sometimes a very small incident or a comment here or there turns into a whore stigma that never goes away. I'm not really sure how I would deal with it if I was stuck with that kind of stigma. -
RE: Can a woman be sexual and not be called a whore? Posted on May 14 2008 at 4:58pm by I remember this one really terrible thing that happened to a friend of mine. It was right at the beginning of freshman year in college, and she and a friend had both started dating these two guys who were friends. One night they were in the guys' dorm room and a little drunk and her friend decided to take off her top and just hang around the room topless. One of the guys broke out a video camera and the two girls started talking about sex and blowjobs and other things of that nature to the camera. The friend then got up, still topless, and started dancing. These girls thought they were just making a little funny tape for their boyfriends but then the guys put it on the internet and circulated it to the whole school. The girls were labeled whores everywhere they went - my friend almost transferred and here friend actually did transfer. It was one instance where just one little stupid blown out of proportion incident snowballed into the girls getting a whore label they couldn't shake. RE: Can a woman be sexual and not be called a whore? Posted on May 14 2008 at 6:28pm by That's really awful. Those poor girls. I don't understand the cruelty of people sometimes. But that story just goes to show you - it's that easy for people to stick you with that label and then there is no getting around it. And it really had a large impact on their lives! One of them even transferred! I'm sorry for your friend, karma will get the perpetrators if it hasn't already.
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