FLYING
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FLYING Posted on May 7 2008 at 11:51am by I don't know about anyone else, but I thoroughly enjoyed watching those first two episodes on Monday, and I'm really looking forward to next Monday. I know exactly what Jen is going through, wanting to have kids and wondering if it's too late. When I was younger, the idea of having children was very unappealing to me - I like being able to sleep through the night, and I get squeamish about excessive bodily waste, which babies seem to produce in abundance. But once I hit 40, I really felt like something was missing. My husband and I tried very hard to have a child the old-fashioned way, to no avail; I began to realize that maybe I had waited too long and my chance to be a mother had passed me by. Though I was hesitant at first, I eventually went ahead and started some fertility treatments, which were a Godsend - I had twin boys who turn four two weeks from Friday. And believe me, the excessive bodily waste was worth it.
Anyway, I really think this should be the purpose of film - to tell the stories that won't tell themselves. There are so many stories that get lost in time, and subsequently so many opportunities for people to connect with each other that are squandered. I love what Jen is doing: she is reminding women that, no matter who you are, there is a woman somewhere going through exactly what you are going through. Anyone else have thoughts, or stories they want to share?
RE: FLYING Posted on May 7 2008 at 1:33pm by That's an interesting point of view. Being only in my early twenties, fresh out of college and just on the horizon that overlooks what it is in life I want, I can't imagine fitting children into my life at all. In fact, I feel that if I were to become pregnant it would be the worst possible thing that could happen to me. I actually have nightmares about becoming pregnant. It's hard for me to imagine ever possessing that motherly desire. However, after watching the first two episodes of FLYING it got me thinking that in our "Modern Western Society" it seems we are maturing more rapidly in every sense but the will to parent or child bear. Why could this be?
p.s. How brave is Jennifer? I can't imagine laying bare my soul like that for millions to see...
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RE: FLYING Posted on May 7 2008 at 3:59pm by I'm so glad everything worked out for you! Seems like you got the best of both worlds: a full life AND children!
You know what was really great about Flying: it brought up SO many relevant topics.. It really made me think about what I want from my life, and where having a family comes in, if at all! And it got me and my partner thinking and talking about what we want and whether or not our ideal futures are compatible. I guess you don't automatically think about things like that at my age, but it's probably time. At 26, just getting into my career, and starting to settle down, it might be important to know things like my partner wants a big family! (We're still in negotiations about that one!)RE: FLYING Posted on May 14 2008 at 5:12pm by Whoa I can't imagine being so forward thinking about a family and everything. I am not even considering kids until I'm 30. And then, knowing me, it will take me a few years to even get around to it. I mean, it would be hard enough to find a guy I would really want to have kids with (I like my current boyfriend alright but I would NOT want to have his babies!).
RE: FLYING Posted on May 14 2008 at 4:43pm by My wife and I had our first child when we were a lot younger, we were both 24, and she had to put off her career. She tried to go back to here career after a couple years, but actually just found that she didn't find the career thing as fulfilling as the mom thing, so she quit again and we made some more children. Maybe it's a little different that she was young enough that she wasn't really into her career at that point, but she totally could have pulled off both and just chose to be a mom. Maybe for some people that's a risk you take, that children can make other things seem less fulfilling.
