Hello. I am relatively new to the forum here. I was intrigued by the youtube videos I saw with Jay Bakker, so I ventured onto this website to read this post and respond.
Why are most Christian churches anti-gay?
It seems apparent jrgtampabay that you and/or Jay Bakker would say that you consider Christians to be anti-gay. I am aware that there are people who are professing Christians who are truly gay-bashing, and picket/demonstrate by holding signs that say "God hates fags." I would want to strongly make this point clear: a fag is a cigarette butt, not a homosexual. It is possible to hate sin in the flesh (carnality), which is unrighteous judgment. The Bible even says so in Matthew 7:1-5. (And for those of you who btw say that I am an idolator of the Bible, I would add that the scripture does say of itself that all scripture is given by God as inspiration for reproof, for correction, for doctrine, for exhortation....)
The ones who judge according to Mat. 7:1 will be judged back, and if their judgment is accounted to God as unforgiveness, then the Heavenly Father will not forgive them of their sins. They will likewise die and spend eternity separated from God. There are those who walk with God, and whose lives have been redeemed from bondage to sin who have been made new creations in Christ, and that includes those who have been delivered from the gay life. I am one who does believe that he whom the Son of God sets free is free indeed. I personally do believe, nevertheless, that what Romans 1:27 has to say is indeed an accurate translation:
"Likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust for one another, men with men committing what is shameful, and receiving in themselves the penalty of their error which was due."
Is it because the Bible teaches that homosexuality is a sin, or is it because our pastors teach us that the Bible teaches us that homosexuality is a sin?
From what Romans tells us, I would have to clearly say that both the Bible calls homosx. a sin and that there are pastors who preach from this passage that say that it is a sin.
Are we truly following the word of God, or are we following the beliefs of our preacher?
I would suppose jrgtampabay that you are implying that what the word of God has to say about the gay life is an endorsement of this alternative lifestyle. How does it make you feel to hear a preacher say that God loves the gays and so does (he), but that He condemned sin (all sin including homosx. and lesbianism) on the cross so that we could have this sin taken away from us as far as the east is from the west in the universe?
My own thoughts on this: I have to succinctly say that if being gay isn't wrong, then what's wrong with the picture of the average gay male living to be 42 years old, and the average lesbian living to be 45? If you think that being gay is glamorous, then take for example a man in a hospital with full-blown AIDS who is nothing but skin and bones, who is about to die at a relatively young age. "Well, even the gay movement has used the AIDS virus to all the more support their movement" you may say. But just remember, there are consequences to living this life. And, btw, a homosx. was not born that way, though he may attest that he began to have those feelings at the age of a toddler. Satan has a crafty way to try to input lie-based thinking into the lives of people in their very formative years.
I would have to dare to say that virtually all gays are hurting very badly. I don't think that one gay or lesbian can truly say that they aren't hurting. No gay can say that they really found deep satisfaction from their gay encounters behind closed doors in the bedroom or on Bourbon St. at a Mardi Gras festivity committing sodomy. Yes, you heard me say that gay sex is sodomy. We can only gleam from what happened to two cities where not 10 righteous people could be found. (Genesis 13:13) I will give people in the gay community the benefit of the doubt. Many gays came to choose this life because of not having a father figure there. I realize that Jay Bakker is not a homosx. himself, but from reading his dad's autobiography I Was Wrong, it was very apparent that Jim wasn't there for his son when his son needed him. And I would venture to say that Jay has not had complete wholeness over what happened in those "glory days" of the PTL chapter. Jay was mostly around security officers who worked on the grounds of PTL. Jay had suffered badly at the hands of people who scrutinized PTL, including the late Jerry Falwell. Jerry was allegedly "trying to help" a near fractured ministry, when it was revealed that he took it over through manipulative means and then driving the ministry into bankrupcy. If a child went through that horror growing up, and then facing unthinkable flack from the media, I wouldn't doubt that anyone who would have gone through this would have been given an incentive from the unrelentless religious world to do an about face with God and pursue other lifestyles, including the gay life.
It was revealed by Jim Bakker in his autobiography that as a young boy, he was repeatedly sexually molested by a man from his church in Michigan. Was this man a homosexual? He could have been, perhaps a closet one, considering the era of his time as being the 1950s. Anyone who would have lived through that horror of being molested as a child could have potentially become a homosexual later in life. But there is one thing I want to bring out here.....Jim Bakker made a choice, and that choice was granted him by the grace of God to remain attracted to women. God did not make Jim gay. I don't believe God would make anyone gay. If you say that God would make someone gay, then how is it that there are those who were delivered from this lifestyle? Ask Dennis Jernigan, Christian songwriter. He was delivered from homosx., and his 2000+ songs give evidence of this.
Yes, there are those who are bi-sexual. Many of them, whether they are gay, bi, or even porn stars, came to this life because of pain, rooted in traumatizing events in their past, rooted with lie-based thinking.
I want to share my story briefly. I had gone through hell in being rejected in my mother's womb. My natural mother didn't want me, and wanted to abort me. God came into the scene and saved her, and she changed her mind and decided to give me up for adoption. She gave birth to me, had me for two months until the legal process was finalized, and a Christian couple adopted me. They aren't perfect people, in fact, I had issues growing up. I had emotional issues, which was replicated in my grades at school, and in my ability to mature in different aspects. My parents were not sensitive in how they reacted to my issues. They loved me the best way they knew how, but in most cases, all they knew to do was to correct me, and put a wet blanket of control over my expressions of anger. Hence, I came to have a LOT of supressed anger. That anger was later replicated when I got into masturbation and porn. I have been involved in porn and masturbation for 17 years. But I am a work in progress. I have had deliverance, I have gone through different programs with the local MHMR facility and counseling. I have cast demons out of myself. But I regressed. Why? Because I wasn't whole. I had anger that I was taught to supress. I was taught to say that I forgot those things which were behind, and pressing into the things ahead, to basically forget my past.
Most people say that they forget the past, but the fact is, the pain and lie-based thinking from the past is still there. It is seen in preachers, churches, priests, laymen, and, you guessed it.....heathen people. Some people don't have as much baggage and lie-based thinking as other people do. But I had come to learn that I had to allow myself to feel my pain, flow with it, and follow it until I got to the lies that I believed. Lies like, "I am not wanted", "I am unloved", "I am afraid that if this happens, this will happen." God let me know that in a lot of ways I was very young when these horrible things happened and that I couldn't help it, because I was a baby, I was a child. I do know from what Christ told me, (and I do believe He speaks to people today), is that I was violated as a baby and had lost a sense of innosense. Does this sound too bizrarre to you? Well, it's my story, and I said all that to say this: As I felt through my anger and allowed Christ to reveal truth to me, the anger left and I had found more freedom from sexual addiction. If you want to find out more about what type of ministry has impacted my life profoundly, you can go to www.theophostic.com.
I realize that some of you say that the church isn't reaching out in love to gays, but I can guarantee you that there are churches out there who do care and accept people for who they are and have loved hurting souls back to life again.
Many homosexuals have got some level of pain inside of them that they may or may not reckon with. The blunt question to you is this: Would you be willing to let Christ take you to places in your past that you may not want to go to find truth and healing in those past situations? Maybe you were molested like Jay's dad. Maybe you had no father. Maybe you had no mother who was there for you.....she just ignored you or abandoned you. Did she fill your mind with lies..........like "you're not allowed to talk in this house or around me..." Maybe you say you were abducted by an alien. I'm willing to believe what you have to say. God cares about you. So do I. Stop denying your pain and come clean with it. Own up to it, and if you're hurting, get help..............before you get AIDS.
Blessings,
Dwayne |